Tuesday, July 3, 2018

How Transgender Campaigner Paris Lees Turned Her Life Around

I’ve just been listening to transgender rights campaigner, Paris Lees, on the Jeremy Vine radio show talking on their special feature, What Makes Us Human. I would definitely recommend you catch this facinating episode on BBC iPlayer or their podcast.

She did not talk about gender rights. Her theme was forgiveness and recounted how she forgave her father and how liberating this was. Listen to the how here.

Paris grew up on a council estate in Nottingham, had an abusive childhood, some rebellious, wild teenage years culminating in a spell in prison. This woke her up when she realised that she had really “messed up”.

Despite a difficult start, Paris has gone on to have great success. She has been featured in Vogue magazine, founded her own magazine, writes for the newspapers like the Independent and the Guardian and I guess is now a celebrity.

How did she turn her life around?

Leaders are readers

In a word, reading. Well, she actually did a degree in English literature, but said that she became obsessed with reading and still spends time reading and thinking, the two things we probably don’t do enough of.

This is significant, as many other people have professed that they turned their lines around through reading, perhaps the famous being Oprah Winfrey who went from dirt poor abused child to billionaire superstardom.

Paris Lees

Leaders are readers, as the old saying goes and Paris Lees doesn’t have a TV in the house.

This is also significant, as TV, along with social media, it’s probably one of the biggest thief of our time. Don’t get me wrong, I am also guilty of wasting some time in front of the box, especially during the World Cup!

It’s so easy to get sucked in to watching one show, then the next program and the next program, and then find yourself channel surfing in the middle of the night looking for the next “fix”. It’s funny, the more channels we have the harder it is to find anything decent to watch!

Zig Ziglar had a good technique help us spend less time in front of the television. He said you should get out one of those TV guide you get with the Sunday newspapers and mark out specific shows you want to watch during the week (you can now do this digitally and even record the shows you want to watch or watch them on catch up). Watch those shows, and then switch the TV off.

Another significant fact is that successful people tend to watch less television than unsuccessful people. Sorry to be brutal, but that’s the way it is and logically how could it be any other way?

How do I know this? In my days in financial services, I visited hundreds, if not thousands, of homes form multi-millionaires to the roughest council estates in London. With few exceptions, I found that the people with the least amount of money and the most financial problems (e.g. debts) had the biggest televisions, which dominated their living rooms and space. In fact, they dominated the whole house. Some of them even had big surround sound speakers that shook the room like an earthquake!

On the other hand, financially successful people, as well as people who had control of their finances, either had no television in the living room, or a very old model stuck away in the corner. I’m not talking about flat screens!

I also observed more books in the house and noticed that parents who had academically “bright” children encouraged them to study rather than waste time slouching around watching television.

What could you do with an "extra" 30 hours a week?

This is my money tip today. I’m going to give you back 20 to 30 hours per week – the average time we spend sitting on the couch watching crap. In that time, you can spend time with the family, learn a new language, complete a degree or make hundreds of thousands of pounds starting an online business, even in your spare time.

Listen to my Podcasr, "How To Get Back 30 Hours A Week" by Charles Kelly https://anchor.fm/charles-kelly/episodes/Get-Back-30-Hours-A-Week-And-Follow-Paris-Lees-Advice-e1ob96/a-a48ftl

What Makes Us Human on Jeremy Vine BBC Radio 2

See also:

How to Monetise Your Knowledge and Skills and Turn Passion into Profits

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